While your loved one was alive you never needed to dig down deep to explain to people just what they were like. It is a sensitive time and a sad one for anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one.
Personal experiences are expected to be re told and reminisced, and to be shared with other people who will be listening. If loved ones are left to make the decisions then choices need to be made during an already stressful and exhausting period of time. Many people call funeral poems death poems, I for one really hate this expression, as I said earlier everything about the funeral should reflect the person's life.
Ask other family members and friends to share their memories, anecdotes and stories of how that person touched their lives. Noteworthy personal habits and a little humor are usually mixed in with mention of special accomplishments and attractive personality characteristics. Memories are bound to come up during your conversation with the aggrieved, and no matter how repetitive it might become, just try to be patient in listening.
Grieving is normal as it forms part of our complex emotions as human beings. The eulogist has a chance to ease the pain of others by providing them with a picture of the best things about that person, something they can hold on to in the difficult days to follow.
No comments:
Post a Comment